Monday, August 30, 2010

Am I with Right Partner ?

During a seminar, a woman asked, "How do I know if I am with the right person?" The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to do anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfilment. Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always:

God determines who walks into your life.

It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay,and who you refuse to let GO!!!

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Wordless Wednesday - 1

How fight started

One year, a husband decided to buy his mother-in-law a cemetery plot as a Christmas gift. The next year, he didn't buy her a gift. When she asked him why, he replied, "Well, you still haven't used the gift I bought you last year!"

And that's how the fight started...

I asked my wife, "Where do you want to go for our anniversary?" It warmed my heart to see her face melt in sweet appreciation. 'Somewhere I haven't been in a long time!' she said. So I suggested, 'How about the kitchen?'

And that's how the fight started...

I tried to talk my wife into buying a case of Haywards 5000 for $14.95. Instead, she bought a jar of cold cream for $7.95. I told her the beer would make her look better at night than the cold cream.

And that's how the fight started...

I took my wife to a restaurant. The waiter, for some reason, took my order first - "I'll have the strip steak, medium rare, please." He said, "Aren't you worried about the mad cow?" "Nah, she can order for herself."

And that's how the fight started...

My wife sat down on the couch next to me as I was flipping the channels. She asked, "What's on TV?" I said, "Dust."

And that's how the fight started...

My wife was hinting about what she wanted for our upcoming anniversary. She said, "I want something shiny that goes from 0 to 200 in about 3 seconds." I bought her a scale.

And that's how the fight started...

My wife and I were sitting at a table at her high school reunion, and she kept staring at a drunken man swigging his drink as he sat alone at a nearby table.
I asked her - "Do you know him?'' Yes, she sighed, "He's my old boyfriend. I understand he took to drinking right after we split up those many years ago, and I hear he hasn't been sober since." "My God!" I said, "who would think a person could go on celebrating that long?"

And that's how the fight started...

I rear-ended a car this morning. So, there we were alongside the road and slowly the other driver got out of his car.. You know how sometimes you just get so stressed and little things just seem funny? Yeah, well I couldn't believe it... he was a DWARF!!! He stormed over to my car, looked up at me, and shouted, 'I AM NOT
HAPPY!' So, I looked down at him and said, 'Well, then which one are you?'

And that's how the fight started...

THE ULTIMATE ONE ( I bet you can't stop laughing after reading this one )


When our lawn mower broke and wouldn't run, my wife kept hinting to me that I  should get it fixed. But, somehow I always had something else to take care of first, the truck, the car, playing golf, Always something more important to me. Finally she thought of a clever way to make her point. When I arrived home one day, I found her seated in the tall grass, busily snipping away with a tiny pair of sewing scissors. I watched silently for a short time and then went into the house. I was gone only a minute, and when I came out again I handed her a toothbrush. I said, 'When you finish cutting the grass, you might as well sweep the driveway.'

The doctors say I will walk again, but I will always have a limp.

Monday, August 9, 2010


ये ज़िन्दगी रेत की तरह होती है
जब तक इसे खुले हाथों में रक्खो तब तक ये तुम्हारी है
पर अगर इसे मुट्ठी में बंद करना चाहो
तो ये उँगलियों के बीच से फिसल जाती है 
यही ज़िन्दगी है

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Office behavior

Below mentioned are few tips on how to behave in office to appear as a very good employee.

Never walk without a document in your hand - People with documents in their hand look like hardworking employee heading for important meeting. While people with nothing in their hand look like they are heading for the cafeteria. People with newspaper in their hand look like they are heading for loo.  And above all make sure that you carry loads of stuff home with you at night, thus generating the false impression that you work longer hours than you do.

Use computers to look busy - Any time you use computer, it looks like work to the casual observer. You can send and receive personal emails, chat and generally have a blast without doing anything remotely related to work.  These aren't exactly the societal benefits that the proponents of the computer revolution would like to talk about but they are not bad either. When you get caught by your boss - and you will get caught - your best defense is to claim that you were trying to learn new software, thus saving the valuable training expenses.

Messy desk - Top management can get away with clean desk. For the rest of us, it looks like we are not working hard enough. Build huge piles of documents around your workspace. To the observer, last year's work looks the same as today's work; its the volume that counts. Pile them wide and high. If you know somebody is coming to your desk, bury the document you will need halfway down in an existing stack and rummage for it when he/she arrives.

Voice mail - Never answer you phone if you have a voice mail. People don't call you just because they want to give you something for nothing - they call because they want you to work for them. That's no way to live.  Screen all your calls through voice mail. If somebody leaves a voice mail message for you and it sounds like impending work, respond during lunch hour when you know they are not there - it looks like you are hard working and conscientious even though you're being a devious weasel.

Look annoyed and impatient - Always try to look impatient and annoyed to give your bosses and colleagues the impression that you are always busy with some important projects.

Leave the office late - Always leave the office late, especially when the boss is still around. You could read magazines and story books that you always wanted to read, but had no time until late before leaving. Make sure you walk past the boss's room on your way out. Send important emails at unearthly hours and during public holidays.

Creative sighing for effect - Sigh loudly when there are  many people around, giving the impression that you are under extreme pressure.

Stacking strategy - It is not enough to pile lots of documents on the table. Put lots of books on the floor etc(thick computer manuals are good option).

Build vocabulary - Read up on some computer magazines and pick out all the jargons and new products. Use the phrases  freely when in  conversations with your boss. Remember, they not necessarily have to understand all that you say but you must sound impressive.

Have 2 jackets - If you work  in a big open plan office, always leave  a spare jacket draped over the back of your chair. This gives the impression that you are still in the premises. The second jacket should be worn while swanning around elsewhere.

Last and the most important - Never let your boss let know of any of the above tricks.

Hope you enjoyed reading all this. But seriously speaking, don't follow this or you'll end up in a big mess. Because before you read this, your boss already has, so.

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Awesome Rishikesh

These are the pics for my Rishikesh trip with my friends. A superb place to chill out. A must visit for every one who loves adventure, specially rafting, rock climbing etc.
White sand beaches, cool breeze, bone-chilling water, natural beauty, lovely mountains, lots of greenery; whoa. I loved the place and is worth recommendation.

A very calm place away from the concrete jungle. Relaxing and soothing. Camping is the only way of available for shelter.

 Weather is usually pleasant at day time and cool in nights. The serene beauty of the location is amazingly spell-bounding. Time just comes to a stand still at this place.

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

You are in love

"Love" is one word of which everybody is very very familiar. But do people actually understand before jumping on the conclusion that they are in love ? I am sure love is often misunderstood for attraction, infatuation, obsession,  fascination etc. And I do agree that these are the first steps toward being in love, the initial steps. But if you are on the right path( highly dependent on your fate ), these misunderstanding gets converted to the most awaited, irresistible emotion, LOVE.

So here I mention a few points which may indicate that the person you have found is in love with you as much as you are in love with him/her.
  1. You are absolutely comfortable with each other and feel you have known each other since long, even if your courtship period is small one.
  2. You generally agree to each other.
  3. You treat each other with equality and the fact never arises that who has compromised more.
  4. You get involved with each other in every big or small activities, even of daily life.
  5. You go around kidding with each other, adding happiness and friendliness to the bonding.
  6. You two give each other special treatment, more attention, mutual appreciations, acceptances, admiration and playfulness. This keeps the romance warm and alive.
  7. You enjoy spending more time together in homely environment to feel 'at home' with each other.
  8. You don't pretend and just be yourself. Similarly you let your partner be what he/she is. The expression of feelings is true and open.
  9. There is a shared feeling of mutual growth and support. You both give each other space for inter-personal and individual growth.
  10. You are able to work out with your problem with ease and objective approach.
  11. You are flexible, compassionate, gracious and expect best from your partner.
  12. Forgiving is not tough when things go out of way, and trusting each other keeps you closer.
  13. You are protective(not obsessive or controlling) towards each other and like to keep your romantic lives in privacy.
  14. Commitment and dedication exists to ensure that feeling of separation never creeps in between(luck plays a huge role here, believe me or not; I know because ....  ah ! don't bother me)
  15. The sexual chemistry is apparent and tangible as well.
  16. Expressing yourselves emotionally and sexually comes naturally and without inhibitions. Feeling secure with one another puts you in the “mood" for intimacy and strengthens your affections for one another.
  17. You have the guts to take bigger risks or challenges since you can always count upon your partner.
  18. There is a whole lot of positive energy generated between the tow of you, and together, you are enthusiastic about life.
  19. The longer you're with each other, the stronger the relationship is growing.
  20. Your relationship is so life-changing that you know without a doubt in your heart that if it were to end, you will take something from it. You feel that you are somehow a very different and much better person.

Other than the above mentionings, the signs below indicate you have already fallen for someone( though you may not have expressed it )

  1. You feel restlessness as soon as he/she is out of sight.
  2. You better prefer to be lonely than being in a circle which does not comprised of him/her.
  3. You feel energetic, the world seem different. You get curious. You pass smile to everybody. You seem to be having all the nice gestures.
  4. There is a change in your tone. Suddenly it becomes soft and sexy.
  5. Even if you are the worst bathroom singer, you still hum love songs and love to listen to them.
  6. You get conscious about your personality. You tend to be smarter, attractive, handsome/beautiful.
  7. He/She grabs most of the time of you attention.
  8. You try to find likes and dislikes of your love and try to gift them accordingly, very often.
  9. You become restless, anxious, pessimistic following the failure in meeting your love, but feel complacence of co-operating him/her by controlling self.
  10. Your love becomes the most unique in whole world. None other will  look more attractive and charming.
  11. You share your personal information and secret and expect the same from the other one.
  12. You leave no stone unturned in making the person believe that you are completely loyal and are ready to prove your loyalty in just any way.
  13. You always smile when ever you think of that person.
  14. You imagine yourself with your love in every thing that you see, read, listen, feel or just anything. You see him/her as an inseparable part of you.

Hey you; Yeah; I am not serious about anything that you have just read. My intention was absolutely not what you had thought when you read the title or first few lines of this post. If you had fun reading all these, good for you. If not, still, good for me.

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*P.S. : These points have been compiled from various sources.

Sunday, August 1, 2010

Here's wishing a very happy friendship day to all my friends.

Even if you are not reading this I wish you a very happy friendship day. Cheers to you all
for making my life so beautiful. You have been with me in my good and my bad times. You have always stood by me even when I didn't wanted anybody around. You have listened to my silences and my weirdest rants.

You have accepted me the way I was and the way I am. I know I have changed over time, but you all never did. You have never complainted, just about anything what I said and not, what I thought and not, what I did and not and anything. You have never let me down on hope.

And I know I can always count on you all in the worst times of my life. I would need you, all my life long.

A warm hug and a huge thanks to you all.

I Love you.

Just wanted to add these lines for my friends

   मेरी जीत तेरी जीत तेरी हार मेरी हार सुन ऐ मेरे यार '
जान पर भी खेलेंगे तेरे लिए ले लेंगे सबसे दुश्मनी
ये दोस्ती हम नहीं तोड़ेंगे ...........

Time pass

Found this in the blog of Shipa Garg and thought of answering these 30 “nosey” questions…which will serve the following purposes…

(a) Is fun Time Pass, (b) And will not make my grey cells to work a lot!

1. When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was the first thing you thought? “Huh! another bad day begins.”

2. How much cash do you have in your wallet right now? Rs. 2150 + change.

3. What’s a word that rhymes with DOOR? Lure

4. Who is the 4th person on your missed call list on your cell phone? Some unknown number not in my contact list.

5. What is your favorite ring tone on your phone? Typical old phone ring style - Tring Tring

6. What are you wearing right now? Clothes :P huh!! shorts and a Tee.

7. Do you label yourself? Not so typical scorpion.

8. Name the brand of the shoes you’re currently own? Liberty.

9.Bright or Dark Room? Dark

10. What do you think about the person who took this survey before you? Umm... Nothing!

11. What does your watch look like? I don't own a watch now. Mother GANGES took it as gift from my during rafting trip.

12. What were you doing at midnight last night? Lying on bed thinking of past.

13. What did your last text message you received on your cell say? Oops! details cannot be furnished as it was from bank :)

14. What’s a word that you say a lot? Not a problem

15. Who told you he/she loved you last?(please exclude spouse , family, children) She herself.

16. Last furry thing you touched? I don't remember.

17. Favourite age you have been so far? Can't decide.

18. What was the last thing you said to someone? I QUIT.

19.The last song you listened to? Breaking my heart - Michael Jackson

20. Where did you live in 1987? Ranchi

21. Are you jealous of anyone? Naaaaaah!

22. Is anyone jealous of you? GOD

23. Name three things that you have on you at all times? My wallet, cellphone and self.

24. What’s your favourite town/city? Delhi

25. When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper and mailed it? A couple of days ago( I wrote it to GOD, yeah I do. And I write all bakwass in there )

26. Can you change the oil on a car? No.

27. Your first love/big crush: what is the last thing you heard about him/her? It's been so long time. I remember nothing except her name ( and beautiful face :P )

28. Does anything hurt on your body right now? My heart.

29.What is your current desktop picture?  Doesn't matters.

30. Have you been burnt by love? I don't think anybody can escape this ( Those who somehow managed are super duper lucky )

I enjoyed answering them too. And if you think you too can be weird enough, answer them and post it on your blog as I did. Go on. Its free..   :P


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